Laigle’s Forum

by

Milla Kette*

 

The Young Adult Library Services Association (YALSA) is a division of the American Library Association that likes to offer sexual advice for teens (check: Healthy Relationships for Teens). One of the web sites they recommend (under Resources for Teens: Sexuality and Sexual Behavior) is the Coalition for Positive Sexuality. The organization can be also found at Wikipedia. Parents of teens, meet the CPS. It was designed for “teens who are sexually active now or just thinking about having sex.” So, next time you talk to your teen about sex, tell him to “Just Say Yes”:

 

Just Say Yes is about having a positive attitude towards sexuality — gay, straight, bisexual or whatever. It’s about saying “yes” to sex you do want, and “no” to sex you don’t. It says there’s nothing wrong with you if you decide to have sex, and nothing wrong with you if you decide not to. (Is it just me, or did you also notice they start with “gay”? And why is there no link to “whatever”?)

 

Let’s be a bit more explanatory, shall we?

 

Women have sex with women, men have sex with men, women have sex with men –and sometimes the best sex is with yourself! (They did it again!)

 

And you have a thing or two to learn, Pa and Ma. Heterosexuals “feel sexual and/or romantic attraction mostly to people of the other sex” (bold emphasis added).  The CPS is also concerned with your kids’ health: “oral sex is licking, sucking, biting (not too hard, please!) your partner’s thang.” See? Your kids will deal very gently with their partner’s… “thang”.  Now, does your teen know what BDSM is?  Do not worry: our good natured friends from CPS explain:

 

BDSM is a combination of three terms: BD (Bondage & Discipline), DS (Dominance & Submission), and SM (Sadism & Masochism). BDSM includes a wide range of activities involving safe, sane, consensual playing with erotic power. BDSM is NOT about abuse. Everyone involved understands and plays by the rule (bold emphasis added).

 

OK, but what about just good ordinary “intercourse”?

 

Intercourse is when something (a dick, finger, dildo, cucumber, whatever) penetrates your butt, which is ANAL SEX, or your vagina, which is VAGINAL SEX. Both women and men can enjoy anal intercourse (bold emphasis added). (Anal fixation, anyone?)

 

More useful advice for teens from these very thoughtful people:

 

- get into role play (for instance, tie someone up and pleasure them) …  

- look at sexy pictures and videos …  

- make up or act out fantasies, talk dirty, dress up, strip down, or cross-dress (dressing in the clothes of the other gender) …  

- use cock rings, nipple clamps (or clothespins), or vibrators on your own or someone else’s body … 

- cum on someone’s belly, back, feet, chest –instead of in them …

- play with your own or someone else’s ass or vagina, put your fingers, dildoes, vegetables, or buttplugs into them.

 

So, next time they decide to experiment sexually, don’t send your teens out to the world ignorant. Let them read the CPS Glossary!

 

And if that inconvenience happens –you know, like pregnancy— and your daughter, like “can’t handle having a baby right now,” never mind: she can, like count on abortion. Like totally! And don’t let her forget: “it’s harder to get an abortion after 3 months, so get help soon!” Like stat!

 

Oh, and if your teens are addicted they “can still protect themselves from HIV. The best thing to do is to USE A CLEAN NEEDLE AND WORKS (cotton, cooker, spoon, etc.) EVERY TIME!” No clean needles on sight? Don’t worry, man: check the CPS resources!

 

A friend of mine [That would be D.Laigle] was so shocked with the site, he decided to pass for a 14 year-old girl and wrote them an E-mail. He wrote that for her parents she was “too young to even think about having sex” and asked what age was the right one to start. The answer came from (children’s Yoga teacher) Andrea Abrams Creel: “There is no ‘right’ time to have sex. However, having sex takes a lot of responsibility. […] you have to be responsible for preventing pregnancy and STDs. That means using a condom EVERY time you have sex, going to the doctor regularly to get checkups and tested for STDs, discussing birth control options with your doctor -and making sure you use your birth control consistently and correctly, and discussing previous sex partners and STD testing with your boyfriend. If you don’t feel comfortable doing ALL of these things, then you probably aren’t ready to have sex” (bold emphasis added).

 

Andrea –who was aware she was advising a minor— did not hesitate: “Having sex is a very big step, and it should be something that YOU want to do”! The girl mentioned her plan to have sex with an 18 year-old boyfriend. The advice came: “Many states have laws that say it is illegal for someone over 18 to have sex with someone who is not an adult. The laws are different in each state -in some states you have to be 16, other states 14. […] If it is illegal in your state and your boyfriend gets caught, he could go to jail. This website can tell you the laws in your state: http://www.ageofconsent.com/.” Nowhere does Andrea mention the minor’s parents, but “a trusted adult.”

 

The second letter my friend sent, Andrea realized she was dealing with an adult male. Her advice changed: “It might be a good idea to talk about these things with an adult who you trust such as a clergy member, a teacher, or guidance counselor.” And according to Andrea, “No one has the right to make you feel uncomfortable or do things that invade your privacy.” In short, parents, the “right to privacy” applies to your kids and supersedes your authority –like, don’t even think about, like, telling your kids what to do.

 

In a series of E-mail exchanges with me, Andrea (*) explained that butt, cum and dick “are not vulgar words [but] names of body parts and sexual identity.” These “are generally the words used in the medical sphere.” Teens should have access to “accurate and comprehensive information about how their body works and about sex.”  “CPS is designed as an informational source for teens, not parents, so the information we give is geared towards that age group.” But “if parents are unfamiliar with the information because they were not given comprehensive sex education as teens, they can use the site to educate themselves as well.” And “a teen who feels they cannot discuss this information with their parents and/or does not receive comprehensive sex education in their school would be thankful to have this information available to them.” How thoughtful.  

 

Before leaving the CPS web site, do a Search on “abstinence.” You will learn that it is ineffective and “that there are a bunch of very conservative and fanatically religious people who are spreading lies about safe sex” (bold emphasis added).

 

 

You can buy products from CPS to help them “continue providing teens with candid sex education materials” –the poster above will certainly inspire your teenage daughter!

 

(*) In her own words: I have a B.A. in psychology, and have taken several graduate courses both at Boston University and George Washington University in Adolescent Development, Reproductive Health, and Sex, Culture, and Development.  I have attended several conferences hosted by amfAR and the APHA regarding reproductive health, HIV/AIDS, and adolescent development.  In addition, I work with the Uniformed Services University to help train medical students on how to properly counsel and treat sexually active adolescents.

 

 

 

*Milla Kette is President of Grassroots American Values (www.plan2succeed.org/grassroots), a non-profit, Firelands area (North Central Ohio) Conservative action group.  GAV exists to promote and defend the right to life, marriage and traditional family values, small government within constitutional boundaries of the founders, personal responsibility, and American Sovereignty.  To contact us or send a donation, write to P.O. Box 286, Huron, Ohio, 44839 or E-mail: grassroots@bex.net.

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